Hey Lyn bike skills are a bit like swimming.
Its best to learn when your young
But never the less you can still improve them!
Sometimes tweaking your bike set up can help.
Women typicaly have the long legs/short torso combo.
And then makes them get a shorter stem.
Of which can hinder handling/cornering abilties...
I actually sometimes suggest my athletes to do long races with open finger bike gloves.
Sure it might be dorky, but Peter Reid won a few Ironmans wearing some
As it will avoid any slipping on your bars and allow you to grip bottles better at the aid stations!
A different example is my girl friend.
She quite "petite" and started to ride bikes in her late 20's and rides a lot indoors.
So she struggled with her handling because her drop bars/STI combo where to big for her small hands.
But last summer I got her a pair of HED bull horn bars that have very small handles.
And since then she has been much more comfortable and confident on her bike!
Because she can now feasibly/firmly squezze her brakes.
In revenge, some athletes are be better off with drop bars than bull horns in the hills.
To each their own